What the Heck Am I Talking About...
17/Aug/08 21:43
by Rosie Blitchington
Centeno
moon playing peek-a-boo
My daughter and I were out tonight enjoying this mild NYC August summer evening and the night was just ripe for the making of a HEART MEMORY™
A huge moon played peek-a-boo with us from behind the clouds.
The air temperature kissed my skin.
My daughter's musical laughter and squeals of excitement filled my ears.
She smelled like a mid-summer night's dream.
I could still taste the fresh "juice" we just drank from the center of a green coconut.
Yeah, So WHAT am I talking about?
Well, a HEART MEMORY™ is one of those highlights in our lives (especially with our kids) that we are liable to miss if we aren't paying attention.
If you've been to one of my more recent workshops or worked with me privately then you probably know what a HEART MEMORY is...
And how AMAZING it feels.
If not, here's a peek at it...
Do you ever wish you knew the secret of how to STOP yelling at your kids?
Well, the HEART MEMORY™ is a tool to help moms stop yelling and doing all sorts of things that we mess up and do and then regret.
I'm so excited about it because it WORKS.
After I created it, I started running into all sorts of cutting-edge brain research that explains exactly why it works.
I have even been contacting some of the researchers and setting up interviews to "pick their brains" about it and to see how I can help them get their work out there to all the people that it will help.
(Sorry about that pun--just too much to resist ;)
Stay tuned because...
I'm about the launch the site heartmemory.com, with all the details including: What it is, Why it works, How to use it, How to create them, etc...
I want you to have tools that you can use right away to help you in your relationships with your kids.
You can share your heart memories there also, so go ahead and get 'em ready.
moon playing peek-a-boo
My daughter and I were out tonight enjoying this mild NYC August summer evening and the night was just ripe for the making of a HEART MEMORY™
A huge moon played peek-a-boo with us from behind the clouds.
The air temperature kissed my skin.
My daughter's musical laughter and squeals of excitement filled my ears.
She smelled like a mid-summer night's dream.
I could still taste the fresh "juice" we just drank from the center of a green coconut.
Yeah, So WHAT am I talking about?
Well, a HEART MEMORY™ is one of those highlights in our lives (especially with our kids) that we are liable to miss if we aren't paying attention.
If you've been to one of my more recent workshops or worked with me privately then you probably know what a HEART MEMORY is...
And how AMAZING it feels.
If not, here's a peek at it...
Do you ever wish you knew the secret of how to STOP yelling at your kids?
Well, the HEART MEMORY™ is a tool to help moms stop yelling and doing all sorts of things that we mess up and do and then regret.
I'm so excited about it because it WORKS.
After I created it, I started running into all sorts of cutting-edge brain research that explains exactly why it works.
I have even been contacting some of the researchers and setting up interviews to "pick their brains" about it and to see how I can help them get their work out there to all the people that it will help.
(Sorry about that pun--just too much to resist ;)
Stay tuned because...
I'm about the launch the site heartmemory.com, with all the details including: What it is, Why it works, How to use it, How to create them, etc...
I want you to have tools that you can use right away to help you in your relationships with your kids.
You can share your heart memories there also, so go ahead and get 'em ready.
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What Are You Struggling With In Your Family? Get a FREE Book
02/Aug/08 20:02
Are you worried that you will repeat the same
patterns with your kids that cause you problems with
your parents and others? Are you afraid that you are
going to make the same mistakes in your family that
your parents did?
Or maybe you already see yourself doing just that even though you don't want to. And you know how it will affect your kid's happiness and well-being.
Does your children's behavior sometime drive you crazy and you don't know what to do?
And you feel like you've tried everything and nothing works?
Do you ever read books about parenting and think:
"Yeah, but I wish I could ask the author about my specific situation" Or
"I wish I could tell the author what I'm going through..."
be the one to stop repeating the pattern...
Well, now is your chance...
See, I am writing a book about how to simplify parenting and get the results you want in your family. And I want to make sure I cover the most important things on your mind.
So I'd like to have a short talk with you to find out more about what you are going through as you raise your kids.
This will help me write a book that is both comprehensive and will clearly help moms like you NOT repeat those same damaging patterns.
But here's the cool part...
I know you are struggling with some of your decisions as a parent (as I certainly have!) and it is a passion of mine to help parents STOP doubting themselves. I want you to know that you are doing what it takes to give your kids the best in life. I want to make sure you have the simple, practical tools you need to do just that.
So If you are willing to share your situation, questions and struggles with me, I am going to give you a FREE copy of my book. This way I can better support you to parent in way that really works.
It's my way of thanking you for helping me make sure I make the best book about parenting that works for both you and your child.
Would you like to join me for a chat so I can learn more about what you're going through and I can give you a FREE copy of my book when it's ready?
If so, Just click here and send me an email so we can get started.
If you respond by Tuesday, August 12, I will give you a free copy of my book when it is finished and you will take away some very effective, practical parenting tools from our chat.
BTW...
I will contact you, though, when I am done to give you your free copy.
I appreciate your willingness to share your story.
Or maybe you already see yourself doing just that even though you don't want to. And you know how it will affect your kid's happiness and well-being.
Does your children's behavior sometime drive you crazy and you don't know what to do?
And you feel like you've tried everything and nothing works?
Do you ever read books about parenting and think:
"Yeah, but I wish I could ask the author about my specific situation" Or
"I wish I could tell the author what I'm going through..."
be the one to stop repeating the pattern...
Well, now is your chance...
See, I am writing a book about how to simplify parenting and get the results you want in your family. And I want to make sure I cover the most important things on your mind.
So I'd like to have a short talk with you to find out more about what you are going through as you raise your kids.
This will help me write a book that is both comprehensive and will clearly help moms like you NOT repeat those same damaging patterns.
But here's the cool part...
I know you are struggling with some of your decisions as a parent (as I certainly have!) and it is a passion of mine to help parents STOP doubting themselves. I want you to know that you are doing what it takes to give your kids the best in life. I want to make sure you have the simple, practical tools you need to do just that.
So If you are willing to share your situation, questions and struggles with me, I am going to give you a FREE copy of my book. This way I can better support you to parent in way that really works.
It's my way of thanking you for helping me make sure I make the best book about parenting that works for both you and your child.
Would you like to join me for a chat so I can learn more about what you're going through and I can give you a FREE copy of my book when it's ready?
If so, Just click here and send me an email so we can get started.
If you respond by Tuesday, August 12, I will give you a free copy of my book when it is finished and you will take away some very effective, practical parenting tools from our chat.
BTW...
- I will not use your name, ever.
- I will change your name and any identifying information if I use any of your story.
- I will keep all of the info strictly confidential as part of my ethics and confidentiality pledge.
- I will only add you to my email list if you go to my home page and fill in the request form.
I will contact you, though, when I am done to give you your free copy.
I appreciate your willingness to share your story.
How To Get Kids To Eat Well
12/Jul/08 12:53
by Rosie Blitchington
Centeno
as happy as a kid in a cabbage patch?
I have been thinking of writing a post on kids and eating and then changed my mind as it seemed like a tangent away from my focus. But guess what? A recently released research study proved that it is right on topic.
They found the indicator for having kids who eat well was modeling the behavior. That's right--It's not a free-for-all permissiveness, where kids eat whatever they want when they want nor is it authoritarian control, which they describe as "banning certain foods, for instance, or using pressure to get them to eat fruits and vegetables."
The most effective way for parents to have kids who learn how to eat healthful diets is to set some limits and eat that way themselves.
This is somewhat intuitive if you know about how children learn everything in life and how they develop and bond to their caregivers. But some of us, who weren't raised that way, sometimes need to reprogram ourselves, especially with media and many of the people around us unaware of these dynamics.
Let me tell you--I did not learn how to eat healthy from my family or culture. But I decided to reprogram myself and then give my child the advantage of growing up that way, because I knew how challenging it was to overcome eating habits learned in childhood.
Some ideas I use from my child's babyhood on:
as happy as a kid in a cabbage patch?
I have been thinking of writing a post on kids and eating and then changed my mind as it seemed like a tangent away from my focus. But guess what? A recently released research study proved that it is right on topic.
They found the indicator for having kids who eat well was modeling the behavior. That's right--It's not a free-for-all permissiveness, where kids eat whatever they want when they want nor is it authoritarian control, which they describe as "banning certain foods, for instance, or using pressure to get them to eat fruits and vegetables."
The most effective way for parents to have kids who learn how to eat healthful diets is to set some limits and eat that way themselves.
This is somewhat intuitive if you know about how children learn everything in life and how they develop and bond to their caregivers. But some of us, who weren't raised that way, sometimes need to reprogram ourselves, especially with media and many of the people around us unaware of these dynamics.
Let me tell you--I did not learn how to eat healthy from my family or culture. But I decided to reprogram myself and then give my child the advantage of growing up that way, because I knew how challenging it was to overcome eating habits learned in childhood.
Some ideas I use from my child's babyhood on:
- Believe It is possible for kid's to learn to eat well and enjoy it.
- Connect with child while providing food. To create pleasant eating experiences feed children while touching, making eye contact, smiling and a slight "yes" nod of the head. Humans are social and the sharing and giving of food is a nurturing behavior and a basic way to create a bond with a child.
- Make sure you offer hugs or other forms of nurturing to a child who is upset instead of always offering food.
- Use very little processed foods. For us, this included commercial baby foods and many of the prepared snacks that are common to give babies, toddlers and kids. And no, I didn't elaborately prepare my own baby food. While I hold that as a lovely idea, it just wasn't high on my priority list as a single mom with the resources available to me. What I did was get a bit creative using the foods that I ate myself, which could be prepared baby and toddler. And I trusted my baby to explore food and eat as her body told her to without me forcing or cajoling.
- Use food with very little additives. Become a label reader to avoid chemicals and especially high fructose corn syrup.
- Use food that is as close to natural state as possible as snacks. Broccoli florets, carrot sticks, edamame, hard-boiled eggs, corn on the cob (cooked or raw), cherry tomatoes, skinless and boneless sardines, watermelon, etc...
- Take those snacks outside. Often kids will eat foods outside that they won't consider at the table.
- Use very little processed sugar. I'm always looking for alternatives. There are a lot out there. (Look for my next post for some great summer ideas)
Ooops
10/Jun/08 17:51
by Rosie Blitchington
Centeno
I wanted to follow up on my blog post on saturday that I sent it out to subscribers with a youtube video in it. Great video resource by the way and I hope you were all able to see it.
Well, I had a glitch while doing this and wasn't able to fix at that time.
From now on I will be setting this up differently.
You can always click the Headline in the email and it will take you to the post on my blog with all the great video and audio content in it.
I wanted to follow up on my blog post on saturday that I sent it out to subscribers with a youtube video in it. Great video resource by the way and I hope you were all able to see it.
Well, I had a glitch while doing this and wasn't able to fix at that time.
From now on I will be setting this up differently.
You can always click the Headline in the email and it will take you to the post on my blog with all the great video and audio content in it.
Let's Talk About Your Key to Unlocking the Secret of Cooperation
14/Apr/08 18:01
by Rosie Blitchington
Centeno
"key of life" through james carter's lens: "The key to the door
of the temple at Abu Simbel, Egypt."
Cooperation does seem like a secret at times, doesn't it? An elusive one.
How can we get more cooperation in our relationships, especially with children?
Well, in my New Strengthening Family Connections Workshops (what I call my NYC Parenting and Communication Workshops) I'm going to break it down and show you exactly HOW.
Let me give you a morsel or two, or three so you'll have an idea of what you are in for. here goes...
K is for Knowledge. Knowledge opens soooo many doors in life, so that's where we'll begin. I've planned some hands-on work (work that feels a lot like fun) with my Whole Child Model.™ Guaranteed to increase the knowledge in your head as well as in your heart.
E is for Empathy. Speaking of the heart, this is where we'll really start focusing on it. Absolutely every child (and person) needs someone who is sensitive to what they are going through, no matter what it is. We'll talk about the three most important elements of empathy and what to do when things are heating up and parents are too taxed to give.
Y is for YES! Say "YES" as much as possible, even when it is necessary to say "No." So we've now worked our way down to the topic of control. Here we'll look what to do when we've accepted that parental control is an illusion, as well as counterproductive, and that what children really need is parental connection. Well, what the heck does that look like, you ask? I'll show you next tuesday.
See you then at 6:15 PM or at Metrominis (date and time TBA).
Stay tuned for your discount coupon in the next few days...
"key of life" through james carter's lens: "The key to the door
of the temple at Abu Simbel, Egypt."
Cooperation does seem like a secret at times, doesn't it? An elusive one.
How can we get more cooperation in our relationships, especially with children?
Well, in my New Strengthening Family Connections Workshops (what I call my NYC Parenting and Communication Workshops) I'm going to break it down and show you exactly HOW.
Let me give you a morsel or two, or three so you'll have an idea of what you are in for. here goes...
K is for Knowledge. Knowledge opens soooo many doors in life, so that's where we'll begin. I've planned some hands-on work (work that feels a lot like fun) with my Whole Child Model.™ Guaranteed to increase the knowledge in your head as well as in your heart.
E is for Empathy. Speaking of the heart, this is where we'll really start focusing on it. Absolutely every child (and person) needs someone who is sensitive to what they are going through, no matter what it is. We'll talk about the three most important elements of empathy and what to do when things are heating up and parents are too taxed to give.
Y is for YES! Say "YES" as much as possible, even when it is necessary to say "No." So we've now worked our way down to the topic of control. Here we'll look what to do when we've accepted that parental control is an illusion, as well as counterproductive, and that what children really need is parental connection. Well, what the heck does that look like, you ask? I'll show you next tuesday.
See you then at 6:15 PM or at Metrominis (date and time TBA).
Stay tuned for your discount coupon in the next few days...
On the Road, Prescott AZ
28/Feb/08 17:45
by Rosie Blitchington
Centeno
i'm up for a drink of this scenery while in prescott
I'm presenting the updated "Key to Cooperation: What Every Parent Wants to Know" Strengthening Family Connections workshop in Prescott, Arizona, on Monday, March 10, at 6:30 pm. Sarah Edmonds, who runs Precott's NVC parenting group, invited me and I'm thrilled about the possibilities! I've spiced up this talk a bit more and can't wait to try it out.
This is one of those openings that happen when some paths close and I keep on moving forward. I guess that's why I was so drawn to this image when thinking about this post. According to the photographer, Farol, is a "view of Watson Lake from the Peavine trail in the Granite Dells outside of Prescott, Arizona."
I find it fascinating that the water level is 10 feet below normal. A drought? Not from Farol's perspective, nor mine as I view his shot, an image of ever increasing possibility.
When I look at it, I see the path the water is cutting, widening and leading out to the horizon, and the vivid greens in the foreground, and the character of the rocks. Even with the brewing storm I want to be there, to see and experience this magnificence.
This shot reminds me of life. And parenting. The beauty lies in the acceptance that it ain't perfect and things aren't always as they seem. And there is so much beauty in the dry parts as well as the stormy parts.
It's the "big picture" that holds the miracle, so beautiful and stunning it hurts--
Just like a child.
i'm up for a drink of this scenery while in prescott
I'm presenting the updated "Key to Cooperation: What Every Parent Wants to Know" Strengthening Family Connections workshop in Prescott, Arizona, on Monday, March 10, at 6:30 pm. Sarah Edmonds, who runs Precott's NVC parenting group, invited me and I'm thrilled about the possibilities! I've spiced up this talk a bit more and can't wait to try it out.
This is one of those openings that happen when some paths close and I keep on moving forward. I guess that's why I was so drawn to this image when thinking about this post. According to the photographer, Farol, is a "view of Watson Lake from the Peavine trail in the Granite Dells outside of Prescott, Arizona."
I find it fascinating that the water level is 10 feet below normal. A drought? Not from Farol's perspective, nor mine as I view his shot, an image of ever increasing possibility.
When I look at it, I see the path the water is cutting, widening and leading out to the horizon, and the vivid greens in the foreground, and the character of the rocks. Even with the brewing storm I want to be there, to see and experience this magnificence.
This shot reminds me of life. And parenting. The beauty lies in the acceptance that it ain't perfect and things aren't always as they seem. And there is so much beauty in the dry parts as well as the stormy parts.
It's the "big picture" that holds the miracle, so beautiful and stunning it hurts--
Just like a child.
From Pam Leo, Creator of Connection Parenting
31/Jan/08 11:18
by Rosie Blitchington
Centeno
yeah, ma, you...
Pam Leo emailed me the following about my work facilitating the NYC Connection Parenting Workshops:
"Rosie...Thank you so much for all the energy and creativity you put into promoting Connection Parenting, you inspire me! We ARE making a difference in the lives of families and in the world."
I enjoy being appreciated.
yeah, ma, you...
Pam Leo emailed me the following about my work facilitating the NYC Connection Parenting Workshops:
"Rosie...Thank you so much for all the energy and creativity you put into promoting Connection Parenting, you inspire me! We ARE making a difference in the lives of families and in the world."
I enjoy being appreciated.